“Don’t get emotionally attached. It was just an affair”
When women are asked what upsets them most about their husbands or boyfriends cheating, the answer usually has less to do with sex and more to do with an emotional connection. Women feel betrayed more by finding out their partner had an emotional connection with another woman rather than finding out their partner had sex with another woman. For this and for several other reasons, avoiding an emotional investment in your affair is important if you want to succeed. It will keep you from becoming dependent and it will help you keep from getting caught as well.
Make and Establish Boundaries
Establishing boundaries is one of the most important parts of making sure you don’t become emotionally invested in your affair. If you let your woman on the side cling to you and talk to you constantly, she will become emotionally dependent on you, and in most cases you may start becoming dependent on her as well. Know your boundaries. If you just want to hook up with a woman, don’t take her out on romantic dates, even if you think it may be the only way of keeping the relationship going. The more romantic you get with her, the more likely you are to overstep boundaries and wind up getting emotionally attached.
Do More Special Things with Your Partner
If you are having an affair in order to be more satisfied with your sex life, there likely isn’t a huge emotional component to your affair and your reason for having it. Therefore, you should still try to dote on your wife or girlfriend romantically. Try to find new ways to appreciate her in everyday life, and go out with just as many dates as you used to. Getting more romantic with your existing partner should help keep you from becoming too romantically attached to your affair. You might even find out that your new romantic interest in your existing partner might wind up fixing the original issue with your sex life, so everybody wins. At the very least, try to rekindle a sense of romance so you don’t focus on your affair so much.
Have Shorter Affairs
“Break up and move on to the next”
Having a long affair with one woman is a very easy way to wind up getting too attached to her. Obviously the more time you spend in an intimate relationship with someone, the closer you are going to get to them. Having longer affairs can certainly be more convenient since you have to shop around less, so to speak, but having numerous short affairs may be the better choice for you. If you find yourself getting overly attached to women you’re having affairs with, you should keep your affairs to short flings with various women. Don’t go out with one woman multiple times. Only have one-night stands or brief flings if you can. Although it may be more difficult to hook up with multiple women in this way, it will help you keep your boundaries firm and will keep you from getting overly attached to any one woman.