Never let it be said that keeping your sex life exciting is easy. Humans tend to routines and that applies to sex as well. Things getting boring in bed within a relationship can be one of the main reasons for affairs, even if you don’t really want to ruin your relationship. It doesn’t have to be that way though. Whether you’re looking into flings to treat yourself to something different once in a while or if you’re intending to find a new partner to enjoy an open relationship with, she needs to bring a few characteristics to the table.
Finding the Right Girl – The Misconception
What a woman has or hasn’t done before meeting you often seem to decide whether or not she’s a good catch. However, it’s wrong to assume that her lack or amount of experience will remain the same. You can’t change someone completely, but you can make them more amiable to your suggestions by giving them the chance to decide for themselves. After all, there’s a reason why Fifty Shades of Grey was so popular despite the common assumption that it’s difficult to find a woman into kinky sex. So when you meet someone new, don’t immediately disregard her when she confesses to just having the usual every day sex and not feeling inclined to trying something new. Chances are that she’s simply afraid of being judged for having what is generally considered to be dirty thoughts.
Yes or No? – Testing the Waters
Once you give her the chance to prove if she really has potential to be a true adventure in bed, only then you can truly put it to the test. Of course you’ll need her consent to try anything, so it’s always better to play it a bit more on the safe side until you’re feeling more assured of the situation. You don’t have to have sex with her over the course of several months to get her to open up though. Don’t be afraid to step up and talk to her about fantasies or, if she doesn’t mind, show her videos. If she really has an inclination and just hasn’t ever followed up on it, then she’ll get quite interested and won’t immediately say no when you ask her if she’d like to try it with you. Women like it when you paint a fantasy out for her, so tell her what you’d do with her. This is the point where she’ll either tell you that it won’t work or she’ll happily latch onto your suggestions.
Encourage Her: Positive Reinforcement
As mentioned before, a lot of women don’t talk about their wilder fantasies because they’re afraid of judgment. They’re conditioned into believing that they should be well behaved and not overt about their sexual interests. So if you want her to keep up in the future, you can’t just open Pandora’s Box and sit back. Give her the feeling that her kinks are welcomed and when she does something you really want her to repeat, tell her exactly that.