So you meet a woman who’s smoking hot and willing to have sex with you. She’s already involved in a committed relationship. If you’re a good guy, you’ll just suck it up and walk away. If you’re like most every other guy you’re still going to want to get with that. If she’s made it clear that she wants to maintain her relationship while screwing around with you, you’re going to have to be careful. She doesn’t want to get caught and you don’t want her to get caught because if she does, you lose your chance to keep hooking up with her. So how can you safely become the “other guy?”
“She’ll call you herself when she gets time”
If she’s got a boyfriend or husband, it’s only normal that she’s going to have to spend time with him. If she doesn’t, he’ll start to suspect that something is up. For that reason you need to be patient. Maybe she can’t meet up with you every other night. It’s no reason to get pissed and decide to move on. If she’s an amazing lay it’s worth the wait. Remember, the longer you wait, the more sexual tension will build between you. Once you’re together again you can go wild.
Look, she married / is dating that guy for a reason. And if she doesn’t want to break that relationship she obviously still cares for him. So if she’s willing to screw around with you, don’t turn it into a competition with her significant other. If you keep comparing yourself to him, it’s going to turn her off. She’s not screwing you because she wants to compare you to her man. She’s screwing you because she needs a little extra excitement in her sex life. So keep the running commentary about what you do better inside your head. Just be thankful that a woman this hot wants to keep hooking up with you.
Don’t Get Attached
“Don’t ever show her these signals”
Being the other guy is relatively easy if you keep your feelings in check. Once you start feeling something more than basic lust for her you need to consider moving on. She’s not looking for another attachment. She just wants to get laid on the side. If you try to complicate things by telling her what you feel it’s not going to end well. So if this happens, cut your losses and just walk away.
Have Realistic Expectations
Yeah, she wants to have sex with you. She also wants to keep her relationship. This means that if you’re expecting that she’ll devote all her spare time to you, you need to adjust your expectations. Keep in mind that you’re the secondary man in her life. She’s hooking up with you because you can fulfill the sexual need she has. Other than that, she’s content with what she’s already got. If you have really high expectations about how often you’ll be hooking up or that she’ll want you so much she’ll be calling you 24/7, you’re headed for disappointment. Keep it real and things will be just fine.