With modern day feminism in full swing it’s totally appropriate for a guy to want a woman to ask him out. It might sound really wimpy at first, but when you think about it it’s always awesome to be complimented. A woman asking you on a date is the utmost compliment you can get. But aside from using your extreme good looks you’re going to have to do a little bit of ignoring. The grade-school rule of being mean to a lady still works to this day.
Getting Her Attention
The first thing you’ve got to do is to pick a target. The moment you step into the bar, office party, office, etc. pick a woman you like and stick to her. At this stage in the game if you’re out there with other women you’re only going to look like a player. Instead focus on her and she’ll notice that you’re not like the other guys.
The Initial Contact
“Approach her and start a conversation”
You’re still playing up the nice guy routine at this point in time. You introduce yourself and start to make conversation, but you’re going to keep it entirely non-sexual. Ask her questions about herself. The typical who, what, when, where, and why work well if you’re having a hard time coming up with small talk too. (Who are you here with? What drink is that? When did you meet (mutual friend)? Where is a good restaurant? Why are drinks so expensive?)
“Show some chivalry and ask for her number”
After you’ve talked about ten minutes you can start getting ready to depart. First, you get to buy her a drink or get her some refreshment. Once that’s done you can proceed to exchange phone numbers and hint that you’d like to get together sometime. Don’t just ditch it all immediately. You want to have a smooth goodbye and then go mingle with other people. She’ll see you having fun and then you can wave when you leave. Now the key is to not call her earlier than two days later. Even if she calls you, let it go to voicemail. When you call her back, let her know that you had a great time, but keep it short. Then you get to repeat for the rest of the week. This might seem formulaic, but it’s for the best to keep everything a mystery. At the end of the week she’ll be asking to see you again. Agree to a simple date at first, then work up to something bigger.
While it definitely does take some effort to get her to ask you out, it will pay off in the end. Her interest will be stronger, she’ll be more likely to want to see you again, and you’ll have the satisfaction of knowing that she wants you. Ignoring her calls and playing the man of mystery will keep her interest piqued long enough to really start wanting you. By the end of it all she won’t be able to resist breaking her typical gender role and ask you on a date.