“Tell her that she is not your first priority”
Sometimes a simple fling can end up backfiring on you when you aren’t careful enough to let her know how you feel ahead of time. If you don’t want to deal with the stress of your fling wanting more than you’re willing to give, make sure you make her fully aware of how far you’re willing to go.
Let Her Know Where You Stand
“Create boundaries in your relationship”
When you want to avoid drama with your fling, you may have to periodically remind her where the two of you stand in regards to a relationship. If you have no desire for her to be more than just someone you occasionally sleep with, you need to let her know in advance. However, what you say and how you carry it out are extremely important so that you don’t upset your fling. If you have already told her that you are single (even if you aren’t), you will have to keep going with this lie. Do not suddenly tell her that you are married as they will only upset her and you may have to deal with her trying to get revenge. Instead, you should tell her that you don’t have the desire to settle down with one person exclusively, but if possible, spend as much time with her that she may feel like the two of you are dating anyway.
If she starts to question whether or not the two of you will ever start being official, make up a story about your dysfunctional childhood. Tell her the story of how your mother cheated on your father and how your father was an abusive alcoholic. Make up any depressing story you can think of and relate it to why you are reluctant to date. This will put a decrease to her hounding you about dating. More importantly, it will make her feel guilty for pressuring you, which you should totally take advantage of.
Don’t Let Her Get Too Close
Another thing you want to avoid is letting your fling get to know your friends or family members. Even someone you consider your best friend can eventually turn on you and you don’t want him or her having something as important as you cheating on your wife as ammunition. If your fling ever questions you about your friends, tell her that you don’t really have any, or that you don’t do well with making friends. If she asks you about your family, tell her that most of your family lives out of state.
You will also want to make sure that you are not adding her to any of your social media sites such as Facebook or Twitter. If she asks you if you have any of these, tell her no, or set up ones for you to use that you only give to your flings. Never give her your address, and if possible, try to avoid getting her your real last name. This will make it harder for her to track you down via your online presence.